Being non-judgmental is a good virtue and not many of us posses this trait. We all know that it is not right to find fault with others while being blind on our own. I practice my best to be non-judgmental. However I become quite judgmental when I encounter people's actions or speech filled with hypocrisy. I try my best to push off this attitude emphasizing myself saying, "Why should I be bothered if he/she is a hypocrite?" It is their life and they will easily be identified of their hypocrisy. So why bother and be worked up?
Though I believe in being non-judgmental it does not mean I support people who do wrong or is hypocrite. I still hate when people give a justification for the wrong done. For me this is heights. If everybody starts giving justification for doing wrong, why do we have laws and moral standards which govern the life of man. Our lives are governed by universal moral laws just like the way we are governed by physical laws.
Many of my well wishers tell me why should be so worked up by people who are hypocrites, haughty or self-righteous? True, why should I ? Can't I just ignore them and keep my cool? Yes, I can. And the best way to deal with such people would be to withdraw from them rather than being judgmental.
My only attitude (not justification) to why I can't stand to some of the negative traits such as hypocrisy, haughtiness and self-righteousness is...None of us are perfect and all of us unintentionally or intentionally behave negative or do the unaccepted. However, we have the choice to admit and learn from our mistakes. And to admit our mistakes requires self-reflection and courage...killing our inner pride. Though I don't preach this...I do my best to practice it.
I too try to be non-judgmental. I've found the best way to do so is to try to think of how the other person views themselves or the situation. So if they're being hypocritical, I try to think about why they would act that way. Then I am able to realize that maybe their culture or their parents have taught them ideals to make them be that way. Like if a boy says 'girls can't....' but then they do it themselves their hypocrisy most likely comes from something they were taught. It helps me not to judge them but instead be able to tell them or help them see why it's wrong for them to be hypocritical. Try that out and see if you can calm yourself with that kind of thinking the next time you get upset with something you see or hear.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your wise insight. I believe it will help me to perceive better.
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